Being without Mr Limbo
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Pros
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Cons
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Not feeling so ugly and fat, which means no
insecurity of battling with food and exercise in the hopes of making him more
attracted to me
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Being
without my companion
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No worries about hurting another woman who doesn’t
deserve to get hurt
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Possibly
never meeting another guy who will love me as much
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Not having to share the guy I love
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Having
to lose someone I love
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Having more free time to pursue hobbies and
interests and better time management
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Giving
up hot passionate sex
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Not having to lie to my family and other people
anymore
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Never
knowing if we would have been good together
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No worries about religion or having to deal with
religious practices
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He won’t have to go through the trouble of
deciding whether he wants to be with his family or not, and I won't have to find out if he loved me that much
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No being embarrassed about our relationship
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No
incidentals of being with a married man (i.e. limited time, no contact on
weekends and late nights)
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No
more guilty or worries
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No
disappointing my family
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Not
having to be so understanding all the time and being selfish
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No
more getting crap thrown at my back at work
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No
more losing friends and getting judged for loving the wrong guy
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Being
available and having more time to meet new people
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No
more sneaking around
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Being
in control and being independent as a single woman and knowing I stood up to him and stuck with my ultimatum
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I
won’t get hurt by him anymore
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I
can find another guy who can share everything with me i.e. go drinking with
me anytime, take photos together and me not going crazy over his eating
restrictions
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Being
able to focus on myself and do a better job at work
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Being with Mr Limbo i.e. promising to marry him
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Pros
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Cons
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Having him all to myself and no more sneaking around
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I
would never know how much of his own accord, that he wanted to leave his
family
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Starting a new life
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I
would not know how much he loves me or if he will really divorce his wife
just cos I say yes and commit myself
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Being able to know him as a single person and he can be himself
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I
would be jumping into a serious mess when I’m already hurt enough by him
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Being able to have a more sincere, wholehearted relationship
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Feeling
guilty about his family
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Being able to have sex without guilt
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He
will be suffering
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Finally having a chance to resolve the issues I have with him
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Having
to fight my tyrant of a father and my control freak of a mother to be with Mr
Limbo, most likely I will be disowned and feel alienated all over again
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Being able to spend a night with him (or a weekend or forever)
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Not
even knowing how it would work out because we only had an affair which is
just full of temptation and excitement
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Being able to talk to him all the time with no guilt (or less guilt)
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if
I just say yes and make it easy for him, I might get all the blame and end up
being a doormat whenever we have couple fights
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No being embarrassed about our relationship
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I
would feel so much pressure to get married to him when I’m not even ready to
marry anyone
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Less guilt about the whole situation, even though it will still be
there
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Because
of this big marriage and religion issue, our other issues never quite got
resolved.
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He’s very sweet and loving and fun
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Not
knowing if I will get cheated on with a younger sexier female again
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The truth will set everyone free, including his family
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Not
knowing how much he will appreciate what I’ve done if he thinks he’s making a
much bigger sacrifice.
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Not
knowing how to function in society in Singapore and back at home anymore
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Not
having a wedding that I’ve always wished for
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Not
being able to drink or enjoy food with him and feeling super restricted
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I
will be constantly worried about our kids and whether they are obliged to
practice his religion
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If
I’m so constantly worried and hurt by him, I will most likely feel suicidal..
or die an early death from all that negativity
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Having
to leave a company that wants to nurture me
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Not
knowing how good he is as a husband or how fast his feelings will fade if he
can do that to his current wife
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Having
to find out what his bad points are (I think he’s actually v hot tempered)
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I
can NEVER have a dog and I’ve always dreamed of having one since I started
travelling so much when I was a kid
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Possibly
screwing up his daughter’s childhood and relationship with him
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The
religion part is the biggest hurdle cos I swore a long time ago not to get involved in it because of the long term
consequences.. I mean.. don't mess with people's faith man.
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